Getting married? The engagement ring and wedding rings you select for your fiancée and yourself will be symbols of your love and commitment for the rest of your life. Of course, the diamond industry knows this and does a brilliant job coercing us to spend a small fortune on engagement rings. Although quality engagement rings and wedding bands (like all fine jewelery) comes at a cost, there is no reason you should pay what the mainstream jewelry industry asks you to pay for these rings. It is very possible to save money on an engagement ring.
The Golden Rule: Do Not Buy an Engagement Ring from a Chain Jeweler
If you want to save money on an engagement ring or wedding rings, do not buy them from a chain jeweler. Sadly, this is what most people do (including myself, before I knew better). It’s easy to understand why: Major jewelers like Kay, Zales, Jared, Tiffany’s, etc. spend millions on advertising, are easily accessible nationwide, and give most diamond-buyers peace of mind that they’re dealing with a reputable company. (I would venture to guess than when buying diamonds, many people would rather overpay than risk spending hundreds or thousands on a gem that is not the indicated quality or isn’t even genuine.)
There’s nothing wrong with shopping at these chain jewelers to get a sense for what kind of rings you want, but the simple fact is that these stores mark up diamonds to double their cost…or more. If you do have your heart set on an engagement ring from one of these stores, always try negotiating. Early in my ring-buying experience I had a chain jeweler manager slashing the price of one ring by hundreds of dollars before I even asked. On the flip side, some of the higher-end jewelers with brands to protect will absolutely not negotiate their prices. But you never know until you ask.
Buying Engagement Rings Online
I recommend that you buy your engagement ring online.
During my ring-buying experience, I was blown away by online diamond store Blue Nile. The site lets you search through tens of thousands of diamonds within your price, size, and quality specifications and match your chosen gem with dozens of setting options. Blue Nile’s prices seem to be nearly half of comparable rings in retail stores, and the site has an impeccable online reputation. They also offer free shipping and a satisfaction guarantee.
To give you an idea of how much you can save at Blue Nile: A simple 4mm platinum comfort fit men’s wedding band is $780 on Blue Nile compared to $1450 at a local Jared the Galleria of Jewelry store. It’s almost half the price!
The only two downsides to Blue Nile that I encountered are:
- You can’t see the ring until you’ve paid for it and it’s delivered
- Although they offer many setting options, you won’t find anything unique.
Finally, I’ve heard complaints that there are some brides-to-be that would be upset to hear that their ring was purchased online. I’m not going to get into the “does it matter where a ring was purchased?” debate here, but I will caution any suitors out there currently ring shopping that you should have a sense of whether the ring’s origin will be a deal-breaker for your honey…and act accordingly.
eBay is also rife with some incredible diamond deals, although buying through an online auction is a bit riskier than through a reputable online dealer like Blue Nile. If you decide to buy an engagement ring on eBay, make sure you’re well-versed in diamond values and eBay transactions. Only purchase a ring if the seller agrees to use an escrow account for payment and allows you to take the ring to a jeweler for appraisal once you receive it.
Local, Independent Jewelers
If buying a diamond online isn’t for you, check out your local jewelers. Although rings at these stores will be significantly more than rings online, you’ll get more bang for your buck than at chain jewelers, as well as better craftsmanship and, most likely, a ring that is more unique. Although I purchased my fiancée’s engagement ring at a chain jeweler after being unable to find the style ring I wanted online, we’re having a local jeweler design a new ring for the diamond after my fiancée discovered the ring’s setting was too high and she was banging it around. We’ve gotten top-notch service from this jeweler, and his custom-designed setting will end up costing less than many of the generic settings available in the chain stores.
For the truly brave, the absolute cheapest way to buy a diamond engagement ring is to buy a loose stone from a diamond wholesaler. To do this, you’ll have to live in or travel to a major city like New York and visit the diamond district in person. You’ll need to know what you’re doing, because these dealers are used to dealing with professional jewelers, and may try to take advantage of a naïve buyer. That said, if you negotiate correctly you can get your rock at wholesale prices and then have a jeweler design a setting. One final caution: These dealers only accept cold hard cash. I had a colleague at SmartMoney magazine buy his fiancée’s diamond this way and I recall him recounting how strange it was to walk through New York with thousands of dollars in his pocket.
Finally: It Doesn’t Have to Be a Diamond!
Although this post is mostly about saving money on a diamond engagement ring, there is no rule saying that an engagement ring has to be a diamond. It’s just a tradition that has been successfully propagated by a powerful diamond lobby keen on profit. You can find beautiful, unique, handcrafted rings with other stones for a tenth of the cost of a diamond. For ideas, check out the jewelry section of Etsy.com, an online marketplace for handmade products.
Did you save big money on your engagement ring? Get ripped off? Opted out of a diamond or an engagement ring altogether? Let us know!